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stuck in the middle February 01, 2013 at 08:06 PM
Hollie, How do you address an ignorant father in law. HE always comes over when my husband is not home and just stays for no apparent reason. He stinks up my bathroom, smells terrible,farts, eats our food and is usually in sweats and dirty tshirts. He has answered my phone, erased messages, and even disabled the DVR. He leaves dirty clothes here. It is driving me nuts. I told my mother in law and her response was, "better you than me!" Can you imagine. He is not lonely, he has friends and other family. We don't even have kids! It is just me. My husband works really long hours. My husband has tried to hint about coming over less, but it doesn't work. I would like to undress and put my bathrobe on at night, but feel uncomfortable. Stuck in my own home....help!
Hollie Gonzalez February 02, 2013 at 04:14 AM
Hi Mary I understand your fear. I don't think that hiding your sons mail is a very good idea. You should be proud that your son wants to serve our country. He sound very proud and eager. I think if he finds out that you are keeping this from him, you will be in a worse situation. Talk to him and tell him your concerns and fears. Plan a visit to a military base and get a hands on idea of what to expect. I am sure many parents have been in a similiar situation and maybe there are support groups you could find on line or visit in person. I don't want my son to go either, but I would certainly be proud if he did. After all it is ultimately their decision.
Hollie Gonzalez February 02, 2013 at 04:25 AM
Well, you are really stuck! But your house your rules right? So do something about it. You have spoken to everyone but your father in law, so next time he comes over, have "the talk". Tell him that while you appreciate his company, he doesn't live there. Ask him to call ahead and tell him that you need your privacy. Maybe he just really enjoys your company. Tell him maybe you two can plan a lunch or trip to the mall or something. Ask him to not feel offended, tell him that you feel touched that he wants you to feel "safe" while his son is at work, but that you are a big girl and need your alone time. Assure him that you will call him if you need anything. He doesn't sound all that bad, he sounds kind of lonely. As for your mother in law, well, that doesn't suprise me.... good luck and I know what you mean about putting your bathrobe on and believe me, I know that is important. If all else fails, don't answer the door!
bon bon February 03, 2013 at 02:21 AM
Hi Hollie, My sons ice hockey coach is terrible. He is the worst i ever seen, He never does a thing to help or encourage the kids, just stays on the side and waits for it to be over, I am so jealous of the teams coaches and all the parents comment but none of us know what to do...
Hollie Gonzalez February 05, 2013 at 02:47 PM
Hi, I know these sports programs are expensive, so for certain I would say something to if not the coach himself, but the league director or president. These kids need a leader and someone who motivates them. If it too daunting of a task for the coach, then he shouldn't be volunteering. I know alot of good coaches and this just gives them a bad name. Absolutely bring your concerns to someone. Why would you sit by and watch? That is taking a page from his playbook!

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