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Hollie Gonzalez February 14, 2013 at 02:42 AM
Good evening, Boy this is a tricky one. You have to have it out with your mother. Sit her down and tell her how you are feeling, You are almost an adult, a grown man who seems to have a good head on your shoulders. I think that your mothers issues are not really with you. She was probably really hurt and now has alot of fears about you growing up. I'm afraid that your mothers insecurities are taking her over and becoming your vice. It sounds like she needs some help from a professional or some other family member, an aunt, uncle or grandparent. You can even offer to go with her if you want or she needs to see someone. And I do agree with you that a girl might be turned away with that kind of overbearing mom. Tell her that you really want to start a relationship and ask her to back off. Let her know that she will always hold that special place in your heart and you value her advice and friendship, but ask her to give you some breathing room so you can take flight and fall or take flight and soar.
chris w February 14, 2013 at 07:33 PM
Hi hollie, Can you tell me a good way to excuse yourself from a conversation that you feel uncomfortable being in? We have a group of friends that always talk about another mother whom I really like. But they bash her and pretend to like her when she is around. Thanks.
Hollie Gonzalez February 15, 2013 at 03:30 AM
Hi Ghris, I wouldn't excuse myself from the conversation at all. If the other woman is really your friend then you should say something. If there is one thing I hate, it's exactly this. I hate when people backstab other people. It is so rude and classless. Tell your "other" group of friends that you really like this person and you think that what they are doing behind her back is disgusting. Let them know that you don't stoop to their level. And who cares if they get mad or don't like what you have to say, at least they won't talk about her anymore in your presence. And I know that you are thinking that this would make for uncomfortable times being around them, but really do you want the kind of people in your lives that talk about other people when they are not around? You know they probably do it about you too, its a given. Maybe its time for a new circle of friends.
JW February 15, 2013 at 08:11 PM
BOY HOLLIE, YOUR ANSWER WAS SO GOOD. I ESPECIALLY LOVE THE LAST SENTANCE. WAY TO GO..
JW February 15, 2013 at 08:12 PM
Can you tellme if you think making a meal from scratch for meeting my boyfriends family for the first time is a good idea, or should we go to a restaurant, or order some kind of take out and eat at home? I have been with him for 6 months and this will be our first meet. thanks.

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